Subject: Moving on is not that easy
Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I were married for six years and one morning he got up, showered, and got dressed for work. Before we left the house, he kissed me on the forehead and said that he didn’t want to be married anymore, at least not to me. He told me that he had a revelation at church and he thinks we both deserve to be happy. I told him I was happy and he shocked me by saying that he has not been happy in a long time. He said that he’d be moving out soon and we need to sell the house so he can buy a new house eventually. When he finally gave me the chance to speak, I told him that he was selfish and that I love my house and I don’t want to sell it. He said that I deserve a better man than him. I got angry and told him to stop with the, “It’s not you, it’s me” BS. That’s when he left because he hates confrontation. I didn’t go to work that day and like a dummy, I told everyone close to me what happened. After I finished crying all day, I realized that I shouldn’t have told so many people. Since then, my girlfriends have called me every day to check on me and my mama set up a group chat with my aunts. They are all trying to figure out ways to make the marriage work and I’ve told them that there’s no going back after the way he handled me. The worst part is that I’m pregnant and I was waiting until I had one more doctor’s visit to tell my husband because I’m in my forties and considered high-risk. I have to deal with people in my business, my pregnancy, the move, a divorce, and moving on as a single mother. Meanwhile, he’s free to go on and live his life. I bet he has a new woman, but that’s none of my business. How can he detach from me and move on so easily?